Note: this is part of a continuing series that teaches men, the women who love them, and anyone else interested in developing their sexuality to the next level the art of vaginal massage. See previous blogs, starting at The Vaginal Massage Playbook/Part One for any of the information you’ve missed up until this point.

Last time we detailed how to massage your woman’s Butterfly Spot, on the upper left corner of her clitoris, but because your lover is unique, you want to make sure this is the best spot to rub. Below is a “pink nub primer”, a way to zero in on the most sensitive zone of your lover’s clitoris. Take the time to become an expert on your woman’s clitoris; become its master and its servant, and get all the love your every wanted in return.

A Pink Nub Primer…Part One

The only way to know if the upper left corner of your lover’s clitoris is super sensitive is to set aside some time where you can gently do a re-con of this, until now, secret terrain. This is highly recommended. Start with a playful, adventurous attitude. Put her in the mood for sensual pleasure. A massage, cuddling, slow dancing or a foot rub would be good. Oh, and lots of lubrication. Say:

“Sweetheart, I love every little bit of you. And I want to know how to turn you into a puddle of love. So, I’m about to concentrate all of my attention on your love button, and I want you to let me know when I touch a part of it that’s especially sensitive. Sound good?”

Start by coating your fingers with lubrication, and rub the tip of your index finger along the right side of her clitoral shaft, starting at the mons pubis and stroking down toward her love button. Say:

“I’m rubbing the right side of your clitoral hood. On a scale of one to ten, with one being pleasant and ten being the most sensitive spot on your body, what would this be?”

Let her take all the time she needs until she needs until she can give you a number. Move to the left side of her clitoral shaft and let her give you another number. Once you’ve rubbed her sex doorbell through the hood covering it, move your finger to her clitoral head. Deliberately, with extremely fine movements, stroke the bottom, the right side, the top, and the left side, each time giving her all the time she needs until she can give you a number for the new area you’re stroking. This might be about the time when you decide you’d rather have bamboo slivers shoved under your fingernails than to keep doing this sort of exercise, but hang in there.

Next time: we finish the pink nub primer exercise, and you become the master of your woman’s clitoris. Until then, please write with any questions/comments! Men: what do you think about taking time to find out more about your woman’s body? Women: how important is this?

Blessings, Dr. Leonard