Note: this is part of a continuing series that teaches men, the women who love them, and anyone else interested in developing their sexuality to the next level the art of vaginal massage. See previous blogs, starting at The Vaginal Massage Playbook/Part One for any of the information you’ve missed up until this point.
Last time you were describing your woman’s vagina for her. (Please review if you missed it; it’s vital!) Let’s move on to part three of giving a great vaginal massage:
Up to now, your left hand has been resting on your lover’s heart, your right hand is in your lap, you have a bottle of warmed lubricant by your side and you are centered, breathing energy down and into your chest and out through your hands.
Taking your hand from her heart, open the lubricant, and squirt about two tablespoons of it into your right hand. Rub your hands together, spreading the lube over them, waiting for it to cool to the right temperature if need be. Set the lube aside. Rest your left hand on your lap or back on her heart.
Begin by massaging her right outer labia lip with your right hand. Bring your thumb and index finger to the bottom of the lip, and gently pinch the lip between your fingers. Now slide your fingers, the lip between them, up the lip to the top of her pink preciousness, then back down. Do this slowly and with great concentration. Put just enough pressure on the lip to grip it and give your fingers control. Go up and down four times, and then repeat on the left outer labia lip.
Come back to the right side of her love box and massage the right inner labia lip in the same way, sliding your thumb and index finger from the bottom of the lip to the top and back down four times; move to the left inner lip and repeat.
Next, grip the center of her right and left outer labia lips with your right and left thumbs and fingers, and pull the lips out to the sides, toward her inner thighs, as if carefully stretching a rubber band. When you’ve stretched them to the point where they stop giving easily, let your fingers slip off the edges. You can practice this move with your lower lip: grab your lip between your thumb and index finger and pull. Once your lip is stretched to its full length, let your fingers slide off.
After you’ve massaged her vaginal lips, take a moment to center yourself. Breathe in and out, again feeling/imagining the energy moving down from the crown of your head into your chest, up into your shoulders and then down your arms and hands, and out your fingertips. This does four things: trains you to move energy in your body, keeps you focused, builds anticipation within your lover, and gives her time to enjoy the sensations you’ve already raised in her.
Next time we’ll move on to “ground zero one” for any good vaginal masseuse, your lover’s clitoris, and we will learn how to cherish it so that your woman will melt, and your life will become deeper, richer and easier. Until then, for men, any questions/concerns about massaging a woman’s vagina? After all, it’s delicate down there! For women, any special tips for us on how to make your labia lips sing?
Blessings,
Dr. Leonard
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