Note: this is part of a continuing series that teaches men, the women who love them, and anyone else interested in developing their sexuality to the next level the art of vaginal massage. See previous blogs, starting at The Vaginal Massage Playbook/Part One for any of the information you’ve missed up until this point.

In my last post, I brought up the idea that you want to get as much feedback from your partner as quickly as possible in order to master vaginal massage. In the past I’ve met some resistance to this idea, as some men feel this makes them appear incompetent. Just remember, the more comfortable you get, the less coaching you’ll need. You’ll come to know how your woman is likely to respond to different pressures, rhythms, strokes, and finger placements.

Always encourage her to let you know what feels good or doesn’t while you’re playing in her lush flesh fields, and ask her about how to improve your technique at other times, such as over dinner, during a walk, or driving to the grocery store. These are good times to float different ideas. (“What if, when I was massaging the bottom of your love box, I kept my finger pressed into the spot over your perineum?”)

The quickest way to mastery is to get as much feedback as possible as soon as possible from your partner.

Now, to continue with our massage…

You’re moving your finger back and forth in a sweeping motion across the bottom of your lover’s vagina. When you first start doing VM, concentrating on perfecting this sweeping back and forth stroke is all you need to do.

Eventually, develop a feel for variations in her vaginal tissue. There will be small tight spots, little indentations, and even “hot” spots that are warmer than the surrounding tissue. Most typically, you’ll notice small raised areas that are relatively hard. In a future post, we’ll go into how to release these areas of increased tension from you lover’s vagina, making her more open to sexual pleasure.

Next time: The juice keeps flowing as we play in our woman’s velvet love chamber. Until then, please write with any questions/comments.


Dr. Leonard